Question: Do you think that groups have to be nice/considerate/welcoming of their allies? As a Queer person, I have very mixed feelings about whether or not I should be nice and welcoming to allies. On one hand, it's nice to have them there. On the other hand, it's irritating sometimes to have to be accommodating to people that say they want to be supportive of people who have your identity. But I can be a bit of a grumps.

Thoughts? For those of you uninterested, the Buttered Cat dilemma.