Jesus Fucking Christ women just can't win, can they?
If the heroine who dreams of travelling to far away land decides to give up her dreams and stay home with her family, she is anti-feminist. If the heroine who dreams of travelling to far away land decides to follow her dreams and leave her home and her family to go live far away, she is anti-feminist.
If the heroine is described as beautiful, that is supporting the idea that a woman's worth is always tied to her looks and is anti-feminist. If the male hero is described as beautiful, the heroine is shallow and anti-feminist.
If the heroine changes her body to gain the ability to live in an alien environment, that's anti-feminist (of course, this is never applied to male heroes, like the dude in Avatar). If the heroine sticks to her environment, she is showing that women can't be bold adventurers and is anti-feminist.
When a male hero takes great risks and deals with dangerous villains because he fell in love with a woman and wants to be with her, the woman is a trophy and anti-feminist. When a heroine takes great risks and deals with dangerous villains because she fell in love with a man and wants to be with him, the heroine is motivated by a man and is anti-feminist.
Reducing a female character to a love interest by focusing exclusively on her interactions with the male hero is anti-feminist. Giving equal or more importance to the parts of the story where she dreams of changing her body and leaving her environment before she meets the hero is an attempt to distract critics from properly pointing out that after meeting the hero she wants to be with him and is therefore anti-feminist.
If a female villain never gets in a physical battle with male heroes, she is supporting the idea that women are physically weak and is anti-feminist. If a female villains get in a physical battle with male heroes and gets stabbed, that's like the penetration of rape and it's anti-feminist.