My mother’s friend (MF) who has no grandchildren called to tell her what she thought was cute. My mother has many friends who call.

MF has a sister who has a grandchild, age 4. The sister went to her daughter’s house. The child was on a chair. The sister said she would like to sit there. The grandchild refused and saitd “I was here first”. The sister told her grandchild the grandchild “yes you were”. A few minutes later the child got up and the grandmother sat. I do not know what the mother was doing.

MF thought it was a cute story. My mother told me the story and found it not cute at all. She believes that it was rude selfish behavior. I said the child learned it from someone. She agreed. She said this should have been a teachable moment and if not what will happen when the child grows up. She continued will the child now an adult be sitting in a bus and not give up seat for an elderly person of course they won’t since the lesson of “I was here first” will be engrained.

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My mother then went on, to me naturally, how this behavior instills disrespect for elders. I would have been in a hell of a lot of trouble if I had ever done what this child did. I would have received a lecture afterwards. I would think at four I would have known better.

Thoughts? Note my mother said nothing to MF since she did not feel like arguing and would not have changed her mind.