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A puppy for your time:

I read Miss Conduct in The Boston Globe today and one of the questions got me thinking. Brief background- older brother sexually abused me and other family members. I was 11. Tried to tell, wasn’t really believed, it was swept under the rug. So a year ago I finally put my foot down and asserted myself- I refuse to see him or be in the same room with him. It was becoming seriously bad for my health. Not a ton of people know about the abuse, just our parents, a few cousins. I have my suspicions he abused others. Anyway my parents still see him frequently, more often than me in fact. They do respect my wishes though.

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Guys. I’m getting older, turning 30 this year. Mr Carbs and I are planning for children in he next year and a half. I don’t want to see this person ever ever ever again. He stole my innocence and so much more. What do I tell our children? Do I pretend I don’t have a brother? Do I say something else? I don’t want to lie at all I just don’t think this sort of thing is in Emily Post and I want to do right by my future children, my husband, our family, and ME.

Everything is compounded by the fact that most of my family and his family have no idea I don't see him anymore or why. I don't want to keep secrets but that's just kind of the default and I don't know what else to do. I just want him out of my life. Any thoughts or experiences?