So the thing is, I meet a lot of men offline. I'm pretty, I'm smart, I'm friendly, and I'm charismatic. I meet them whenever I go out socially, where there's a large gathering of people. But I don't go out socially like that very often because it's usually expensive. I rarely go to bars, because I don't drink, and also, I'm an old.

This is why I do OKC. As much as I dislike it, my best experiences have been when men contacted me. I think there really is something to the old "men pursue, women are pursued" trope. I don't like it, but it's largely proven true for me. But if I do want to contact a guy, what's the best way to go about doing it. I know all men are different, just like all women are different, but is a basic "hey how's it going?" good? Should I make a little more effort, or is it really just about my picture and basic stats?

ETA: You know that old saying "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else?" Well I really need to do that right now. I think I did the right thing by ending it with the guy, but I'm having a hard time getting him out of my head.

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Or maybe I should just put some of this energy into getting a part-time job so I have more money to do things. *Sigh*