Hey GT. You seem to be my personal advice machine lately, but I'm cool with that if you're cool with that.
Because this is definitely me outside of my usual comfort zone.
Details after the jump.
Did it work?
So, my best friend soul-mate if I believed in soul-mates person is pregnant. She can't be right now for lots of reasons, so she's getting an abortion. She found out for sure on Sunday, the procedure (which is just a pill at this point) is happening on Wednesday. Gotta love living in an Urban centre with socialized medicine! So everything is kind of a whirlwind right now and I know she hasn't fully processed.
We talked on the phone Monday night and she cried a little, but we mostly laughed. We joked about how she is going to get an IUD, and I should too and we should engrave each other's names on them. She was baffled that this happened to her before me, since our friends had all bet that I would be the first one. I laughed and said I thought I would be the first one, mostly because my family is as fertile as rabbits.
But what stuck out for me was the fact that she asked if it made her a bad person. She said it was something she never thought she would do- she's ardently pro-choice but hasn't made a secret of the fact that she wants kids ASAP- but the realities of the situation hit home for her.
She's okay now. But after the dust settles and she has time to obsess, as one does, I know it's going to be a different story. I have plans to see her, and watch movies, and just hang out. Because I know we don't do it enough, and I know it cheers her more than anything.
But are there GTers who can think of literature, both fiction and non-fiction that helped them, or loved ones through feeling conflicted about this? Is there anything I should absolutely, 100% not say? I know ultimately it comes down to individual and we have been friends for 18 years, so I feel like I know her fairly well. We've helped each other through shitty situations before. So mostly I am just putting my hands out there for any kind of insight, because this is the first time either of us have been through this.