I tend to have very dry skin in the winter. Lots of people do. My legs especially tend to be very dry because I do not bother to put lotion on them consistently.But do you want to know something?

I don't really care.

Sure, for fancy events where my legs will be showing, I might want to put some lotion on, but what fancy event in the winter requires bare legs? I usually wear tights, anyway. Thus, my legs are ashy most of the time. Along my ankles, it's especially bad. It may even be eczema down there, but I just can't muster up the fucks to worry about the skin on my legs that much because they are working and that's good enough for me.


While I wouldn't call it a full-out "fight", I do believe that I have just had an "altercation" with my mother this afternoon on the state of my legs. I had just taken a nice bath, and she suggested that I put on lotion after taking a bath. I insisted that I didn't want to do it, and she pretty much acted like I was an idiot, backhandedly saying "because you're so smart" in a sarcastic way.I am pissed off about this for various reason. The main reason is because she is taking on the role of body police and I am not in a position to call her out in the way that I would like to ("it's my fucking body"). I am pretty much dependent on her for shelter and support right now, and it's very frustrating in this situation because I can't leave the situation when it is as toxic as this.

I need to figure out a way to tell her that her attempts to control what I do with my body are demeaning, annoying, and insulting in a way that is polite and will have her actually stop doing it. I've tried explaining that body policing is bad. I've tried telling her that I don't give a fuck about looking perfect 24/7. I've tried those things, but they aren't really getting to her in these moments of cruelty. Does anyone have ideas for how I can get the point across?


Thank you so much, everyone, for your advise! I'm putting some distance between us as we speak, and she has apologized, but in the "I'm sorry that I have offended you" kind of way. It's a step, I guess.