I've been putting it off for weeks, maybe you guys can help?
So as most of you know I'm in group counseling, and the major theme we've been focusing on is relationships. There's obviously a bunch of us as it's a, ya know, group. Some are single and recovering from relatively recent breakups (me), some are single and starting to date again, some are in relationships, and some are just focusing on platonic relationships with their friends. But the main thing is we're all trying to figure out 1 - what our boundaries are and 2 - what we want and/or need from a partner, specifically a romantic one. We're all also trying to work on breaking unhealthy habits we have in relationships, platonic or romantic.
An exercise the counselor gave all of us was to come up with a list of things we want in a partner. He said it can be anything - physical traits, hobbies, how they act, etc.
He gave us this exercise like 3 weeks ago and I keep having trouble with it. Cuz every time I try to devise a list I feel like I'm coming across as too...needy? High-maintenance? I'm not really sure. Like I'm just uncomfortable with the idea of having a check list of things a person needs to match in order to date me.
I don't know. I don't even really know what I'm asking for or if I'm articulating my feelings on this properly. Does anyone understand what I'm saying?