I have a friend who I love dearly, who is in her early 40s. I'm in my late 20s, and we met at work, and despite the age difference we had an instant connection and I consider her one of my closest friends. When we met, she was single and desperately wanted to be in a relationship and have a baby since she felt her window was closing, if not closed. I'm married and sometimes she held it against me a bit, sometimes, like when she'd talk about her problems and I'd try to empathize and she'd say "you don't know what I'm going through, your life is perfect." (It's not. She has no idea).
Anyway, fast forward a few months. She met a great guy who really gets her and now she's pregnant after a few months of dating. When she told me, I swear it was the some of the best news I've ever heard in my life. Neither of us could stop crying, in the best way. She's going to be an amazing mother.
BUT, she has not taken to pregnancy. She is miserable. She is questioning everything - whether she wants the baby, whether she loves the boyfriend (I know for sure that the answer is a big resounding yes to both questions) - and she has been really depressed. Not sleeping, looking wiped, crying all the time, talking about nothing but negativity and stressed. I am so worried about her and the baby and I don't know what to do. I've begged her to see a doctor but since she's not at 12 weeks yet she insists there's nothing they can do. She wanted this pregnancy so badly and now that it's here, it seems to be causing her nothing but pain. I've tried to listen, talk it through, give advice, send links, and nothing is working. She continues to tell me my life is perfect and what the hell do I know, and I don't know how to respond to that because I don't want to go into my own issues. I feel totally helpless and I'm really worried. Any advice on how to help get her through this? Anyone have a horrible first trimester and get through it? I'm scared for her.