And I’m a little freaked out!

Here are the pros:


  • The city/state I’m considering is democratic, financially prosperous and has a strong social welfare system.
  • It also has a strong and rapidly growing professional creative class and community, which is essential for my business.
  • There’s a good amount of work there.
  • If I got any of the jobs I’m applying to, I’d be making A LOT of money, have a lower cost of living, and potential employers will pay moving expenses. Plus I’m getting priced out of decent neighborhoods in my current city.
  • I used to live there and I still have friends there. Not close friends, but friends nonetheless.
  • I could potentially get a job that is EXACTLY what I want to do, at a nationally recognized, award-winning workplace with a good culture.
  • I’m in a position to move. I’m finally healthy, I have no mortgage, no kids/partner, and a good amount of freedom.
  • I could likely weather a recession/economic downturn much better in the potential new place than my current state, which is on the verge of bankruptcy.
  • I’m friends with several people in the same industry, who are also looking to move to the same place

Here are the cons:

  • I’m not really very fond of the potential city. It’s great on paper but my experience there was kind of tough (I was also in my 20s and a hot mess, so there is that.)
  • I’ve lived in this place for a LONG time and it’s hard to let go.
  • My parents are aging, and while they’re healthy and have plenty of resources, I don’t want to leave them. Realistically I don’t have much time left with them.
  • I’ve worked hard to develop a professional network that FINALLY seems to be coming through. My career is gaining a lot of momentum and moving to a new place could really disrupt that.
  • Change is hard and I’m scared. I’m in my 40s and it’s hard enough to make friends as a youngster. Now...I may be SOL in my new place.

It is all hypothetical right now. I don’t want to say too much, because doxing and whatnot. All I’ve had is a few first-round phone interviews. It is scary and exciting and I have no fucking idea what I will do if/when change knocks on my door.