Problem: Everyone I like is not as- what's the word? PC? Progressive? Uptight?- as I am. I don't know how to deal with this. It's not like I can just find another super progressive person to try and make out with because the only people who seem to fit the bill in this city are graduates of my school and/or pretentious douchenozzles and/or hipster racists/"fauxmenists." I don't want to date any of them. I want someone laid back who isn't as angry or annoyed with life as I am, but I can't seem to find the balance between kombucha guzzling, free-love giving, neckbeard-growing, guru-having white guys and...normal-sounding twenty somethings of all races and genders who make mistakes and say offensive things sometimes because they think it's funny, but who are willing and open to change. Part of the problem is I'm extremely conflict-avoidant, so I don't like correcting people IRL.

I'm sure you've all dealt with this: how did/do you cope? I just want to get a drink with someone and not have something ridiculously offensive come out of their mouths.

P.S. I realize this could be a problem with me, that I'm too idealistic or "militant" as my great aunt once called me, but I don't really see myself that way. I want everyone to be comfortable being themselves, and if that means not repeating a certain joke or word or making sure marginalized people aren't left out of the convo I am all for it.