Had coffee with a friend - she is cohabitating with her boyfriend. We talked about cohabitation. My SO had somewhat of a housework learning curve but he is willing and able (more willing than me, for sure). I told her about how when we went to visit my in-laws, they mocked him and couldn't believe he was remotely competent enough to wash a dish or chop an onion.

My friend says, "'BF' is really good about doing the housework when I can't get to it." I ask, "will he do it when you CAN get to it? Or is it your job when it's remotely possible, and only his if there's no one else available?"

She says, "Well I do most of it, of course."

Of course. Le sigh.