So, I am pretty upset. I was voluntold to be an oncall person for my neighbors when the husband goes out of town. The wife JUST had a major transplant and to make matters worth they had a micro premie baby who is doing ok but is still hooked up to antibiotics and a breathing thing. I want to help but I also have a baby and a husband with a very unpredictable work schedule. The wife and or the baby has an emergency almost every week.

It came up because I met the husband's boss in a social setting and the boss found out we were neighbors. Then this boss suggested me to be that emergency contact person without consulting me. Which requires my husband to tell his shop what is going on and it is frankly a logistical nightmares. I am probably going to have to learn how to administer medications and food to the baby.

I can't say no and I am very empathetic to what they are going through. But I feel like it is his squadrons responsibility to be 24/7 on call for the wife. They have government vehicles and constant bodies. I am just blindsided because I have a lot on my plate and nervous because often we leave base and are at least 30 min away.

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We are like their only option. Frankly, I think it is irresponsible to send the husband out on training 2000 miles away with a special needs child and a sick wife. What should I bring up when I sign the paperwork tomorrOw? I know I need training on the baby's needs because if the wife has a medical emergency than who is going to take care of the baby? What else am I not thinking of?