As I've stated in Terrible Confessions Of Bad Feminists, I have a problem accepting Sugar Babies. Sugar Babies confuse me. I don't want to judge anyone based on their sexual preferences or their sexual identification. I support sex workers that go into the field without being coerced. I don't believe that a woman should be defined by how many consensual partners they have. That certainly doesn't define if a woman, or a person is someone of worth.

That being said, Sugar Babies are different to me. Sugar Babies appear to rely on antiquated stereotypes; that without men, women can't succeed. I also see a lot of body snarking going on in Sugar Babies blogs, with regards to other women. They laud themselves over the fact that they are thin, and if someone doesn't agree with their lifestyle, then they must be "ugly," or "fat." There's constant information on the size the Sugar Babies wear, i.e., a size 0/2 dress or pant. They also body shame their dates. Several Sugar Babies describe their "Daddies" as being "fat and old" or "whales."

Does my confusion and guttural reaction to place judgment on Sugar Babies make me a bad feminist as well? I would love to hear someone explain to me what it's like on the other side of the spectrum, from a feminist perspective.


What would a good feminist do?

EDIT: I forgot to add that I have NO PROBLEM judging the men (the Sugar Daddies) that these Sugar Babies get their funds from. Sugar Daddies are different then the cis-gendered men that consensually hire prostitutes- there's no shame in that. This post is also heteronormative, and for that I apologize. I know there's Sugaring in the LGBT community too.