I am slender and I have been my whole life with the exception of college when my diet consisted of copious amounts of beer and fried food. It’s how my body rolls without much input from me.
Twice within the last two days, clients I work with have made comments about my weight. One I had just met for the first time said “I saw you walk by before our appointment. I didn’t know it was you but I thought ‘Oh, I’d like to be that size.’” The next day, with a woman I hadn’t seen in a couple of years, the first thing out of her mouth was “Do you ever gain a pound?”
I’m sure in both cases, the women thought they were giving me a compliment of some sort. It puts me in such a weird and annoying spot. Like what the fuck am I supposed to say in response to that? Why would you even think you should say anything like that to me? I had to get up and leave a couple times in each meeting to make copies of paperwork and I found myself feeling really self-conscious. I actually thought about what clothes I would wear next time I met with either of them.
This isn’t the first time this has happened but it’s the first time in such rapid suggestion so it’s bothering me more than usual.