A family member just notified us all that she’s pregnant. This is highly unexpected since she’s not married, I don’t think she’s even been dating that long, and her part of the family is very religious.

She sounds like she’s in shock (she’s probably known for two months or so) and perhaps not quite happy about it (yet?). I sent back an enthusiastic congratulations because I want her to know I totally support her and am not judging. Any advice on how to talk to someone pregnant with a perhaps not quite wanted baby?