So last night I googled my ex for shits and giggles. I was drinking wine and it sounded like a good idea. But what I found out about him has me feeling both worried and totally amused in a strange way.

THE MOTHERFUCKER IS ENGAGED!

My gut instinct is to laugh my ass off (which is what I did for about 10 minutes when I first found out) and my other thought is "oh man...that poor girl". Because, you see, we're talking about a person who may actually be a sociopath. And I know we all say that shit when we break up with someone. But this time I am dead fucking serious. He is completely unbalanced and threw temper tantrums on a daily basis that included most or all of the following (and no, I am seriously not shitting you):

  • Hair pulling
  • Stomping so hard he broke his foot (at work!)
  • Spitting
  • Speaking in tongues (this was my favorite)
  • Crying
  • Screeching
  • Punching things so hard he broke his hand (on the subway, as in he PUNCHED THE SUBWAY)
  • Driving down residential streets at 80mph
  • Etc etc etc

I am shocked and appalled that someone is marrying him. Like, I am flabbergasted. How? Why? Is it possible he's changed? I mean, maybe. But he never saw himself as having a problem and when you are as psychotic as he was then I'm not even sure you CAN change. He was abusive in every way a person can be abusive- including and especially sexually. Can a rapist/woman beater change? I highly fucking doubt it.

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To make matters even stranger, he's also currently living in the same neighborhood as the guy I'm dating. So I could potentially run into him on any given Friday. WTF.