My husband and I work in the same place. He has resigned so that he can start a doctorate elsewhere.

People keep approaching me to congratulate us on “our” move. I have not yet turned in notice. I do not yet have plans in our new location. Because I am an asshole, I sometimes consider staying out of spite. (I won’t.)

Perhaps they are making assumptions based on the knowledge that my salary alone could not support a person, but given their history of awareness of my life, I have doubts. I am growing increasingly frustrated with these well-wishes, even though they come from a well-intentionedpositive place.

My husband has implied my feelings are irrational. I think the correct response is, “That’s so great for FluterDude! What are your plans?”

What says GroupThink?