I posted a couple of days ago about a reddit post where a girl rejected her boyfriend's proposal because she didn't feel financially ready for marriage and some of the commenters were going a little crazy being like "you've been together 2 years! How could you not see that coming? Even if you don't want to marry him right now, you should have just said yes to spare his feelings!" Which just weirded me out on so many levels, including the fact that the Constable and I have been dating for almost two years and if he proposed to me tomorrow, the only answer he'd get is a laugh, so I don't know who these people are that think two years is equal to a universal "you must be ready to get married by this point."
But it got me thinking about what I think would be the absolute minimum I'd need before I'd feel comfortable marrying someone, or even getting engaged.
1. Live together at least 1 year
2. Go over a "marriage checklist." Something that covers our views on kids, finances, in-laws, and basically anything that could come up during a marriage and make sure that we're on the same page.
3. Be at least 25 years old before getting engaged.
Obviously I'd have to also want to marry the person asking, but for me these are the three things that would have to happen before I would even consider marrying someone, no matter how much I loved them. Obviously everybody's standards are different, so no judgment if these aren't yours! (Although I do have to confess that I am a little freaked out by the fact that it seems like everybody I went to high school with got married or engaged this summer.) But I'm curious, what are your "marriage pre-reqs"? Married GTers, when were you convinced that you were ready to get married (to your significant other, but also just for yourself)?