TW - domestic violence and for murder, I guess. There isn't an easy way to say that.

What do you do when someone you know brutally killed their girlfriend? This has been sitting with me for a while. I'm uncomfortable. I don't know how to deal with it.

I knew this kid from school. He was in my group of friends, someone I ate lunch or dinner with on a near daily basis. We all hung out together. He was never the person who gave me the abuser vibes, and this was after I had left my own abusive situation and learned what the warning signs were. But I didn't know him well, I suppose. My best friend was his roommate though. I'm sure he's more freaked out than I am.

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When I found out, I was shocked, but I wasn't surprised, in a way. Like I was shocked he'd do such a thing, but I wasn't really surprised it was him.

I feel like I should have known. I wish I could have done something. He's going to jail, thank god, because he's a complete sociopath. I just feel like I should have seen that earlier. I feel guilty for knowing him. I couldn't have known at the time, but I wish I could have seen the flags.