Although the 2016 to 2017 transition as emblematic of a new beginning is a social construct, and thus meaningless in any kind of objective sense, it still holds some value for taking stock and looking forward. Are there things you want to try to do differently? I’m not talking about resolutions, I’m talking about minor tweaks to try to improve some things in our lives - which is perhaps particularly important this year.

Here are some of mine:

1. I don’t want to get numbed and/or passive in 2017. I want to keep us my anger and figure out how to resist and foment change in ways that work for my particular style.

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2. I want to be more open to and with people. I did a decent job of this in 2016, and want to continue in 2017.

3. I want to get into some better work habits and start figuring out how to keep up my productivity *for me* not to please others.

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4. I want a new crush. Current one is unavailable and not a smart one. I also want to do more gay stuff (like volunteer and connect with others in the LGBTQ+ community).

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5. One of my professors in undergrad urged me to make better connections between my public and private selves* - he wanted me to let others see my private self more. This goes along with #2, but it a bit bigger than that - I want those two selves to be slightly less discrete such that if someone saw my private self, it wouldn’t seem like a completely different person than my public self.

* I was a theater major - we got feedback constantly about who we were and how we interacted with the world. This is one of the reasons why I think it was the best possible major for me and a really good major in general. We also got a great education in history (centered in the theater and arts of the time), literature, art, writing (we had to write constantly - both academic and personal writing), practical stuff (stagecraft, sewing), how to get into others’ minds and perspectives, and how to speak in public. In my department, learning about ourselves was also of critical import, and we were pushed constantly, given feedback constantly, and made to reflect and think and feel constantly. It was an exceptional liberal arts education with a focus on me as an individual embedded within a larger group.