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A mildly inappropriate crush.


So, I have a crush on one of my instructors. Background: He’s single, we are roughly the same age, (late 20's/early 30's) he is a doctoral student teaching a music ensemble I’m in. We have had friendly conversation, he is a genuinely kind and approachable person, he’s also stupidly attractive but I try not to think about that too hard so I can still focus during rehearsal.

Coincidentally, he’s also my neighbor. We live at the same apartment complex. I moved in over Christmas break and ran into him at the mailbox maybe three weeks ago. We chatted for a minute and I joked about not wanting to give him my cooties since I was getting over a cold. (cue dumbass smile on my face for the rest of the night)


I would never do anything inappropriate or flirt with him overtly because same age or not, he still is giving me a grade at the end of this semester. But, he’s graduating in May and won’t be teaching at the university once he’s finished, and I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t considered asking if he wants to get lunch or a beer or something after grades are finalized. Buuuut...I do worry about that coming off creepy or somehow inappropriate since, you know, teacher. The relationship is not as strict as with professors I’ve had for lecture classes, since music is more interactive and there’s more connection between musicians and the conductor in my experience...plus he’s pretty relaxed and open with us about himself to a point.

What would you do in my sitch, GT? I’ve thought about just leaving it alone, but my best friend is convinced I’ll kick myself if I don’t at least ask him to stay in touch.

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