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I finally cut the very last tie to my abusive asshole of an ex.

(In case you missed it: http://jezebel.com/5971081/this-s… )

He was physically, emotionally, and financially abusive. He was/is an alcoholic. He's a racist, homophobic, wanna-be "redneck" with a whole host of issues.


I was good friends with his "best friend's" girlfriend for many years. This is the chick who came to Hawaii to visit her boyfriend (of 6 years) last June, and he proceeded to ignore her and leave her in the hotel room by herself the whole week (including her birthday!). So I spent a ton of time and money on her while she was here. When they broke up, I consoled her.

Come to find out, she's now dating my ex. Apparently they started dating within days of her breaking up with her boyfriend, when he professed his love to her. He said he's always loved her...even while he was with me. She posted a picture on Facebook of them together with their new townhouse and the jewelry he bought her for Christmas (his family is loaded). She is talking about all the places he's taking her (he travels for his new job), like Singapore for the new year.

So I unfriended her. She knows everything he did to me. She saw him spiral into crazytown and go on anti-psychotics, which put him on disability and lost him his job (apparently he got his old job back, the one he had when he and I were together). Yet, she doesn't care. She said he told her that I made up everything and tried to "take him for all he was worth" when we broke up.

Then she has the gall to tell me she still wants to be my friend and doesn't understand why I unfriended her. She said she's sorry about the pics and she'll be more careful with what she posts in the future. Fuck. That. Shit.


Now I have NOTHING tying me to him in any way at all. Feels good. A very small part of me worries he's going to end up hurting her, but you know what? Not my fucking problem.

I think this is a good start to 2014.

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