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Advice on how to not take ManBerry's (temporary) lack of sex drive personally

Due to some things occurring (that probably add to this problem), ManBerry has been unemployed for 2 months. He has been working some odd jobs enough to pay the rent and cover his other bills. I can deal with the one planning all of our dinners, because he doesn't have any money, I do, and I enjoy cooking. I can deal with not going out on dates he can't afford it and doesn’t want to make me pay for everything. I know all that will change once he has a job again. But, this lack of sex due to his being stressed is harder on me than I thought it would be. We have only had sex twice in the last 5 weeks. We discussed it once before, because he was wondering why I seemed to be pulling away. He told me that he still finds me attractive and wants to have sex, but the desire just isn't there. I know logically this all makes sense. But, on a more emotional level the rejection is taking a toll on my self-esteem and causing me to pull away. I try not to because I know it is ridiculous, there is more to a relationship than sex, but it is hard. Fortunately, he has applied for a job that interviews in a little over two weeks, and he'll probably get it. But, I know he'll be stressed until then, worried about passing the physical part of it (it’s for a firefighter position), and the interview, etc, so this problem will likely continue for at least another few weeks. I’m not sure I can handle it on an emotional level for that much longer. Plus, on a physical level, I'm still attracted enough to him that all the touching he does, such as rubbing by back or legs when we are watching tv is driving me crazy. A girl can only go home and use her vibrator so much! We've discussed alternatives to intercourse, such as having me masturbate while over there and other similar activities, but with his lack of desire, even that isn't appealing to him. I know he hates his total lack of desire as much as I do, and I don't want to add to his stress level by bringing it up again, but I just don't know what to do here.

TL;DR basic question is: Does anybody have any advice on not taking ManBerry's current total lack of sex drive personally?


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