My male friend and I are (online)chatting away like every other day when he mentions he likes this song from the 50 shades soundtrack. He's a huge music buff (prince fan #1) so I told him I'd listen to it but that the songs creep me out because they are sexualising something that is NOT sexy at all, namely violence.
He goes on this rant about how womenfolk think domestic violence is super hot right now and totally in; twilight, 50 shades, etc. Apparently if you slap domestic violence in there somewhere they'll just love it. Somewhere he meant something along the lines of feminists in particular. How everyone thinks men are so weird but here we go with this stuf. And I just went WTF DUDE, WHAT THEF UCK ARE YOU EVEN TALKING ABOUT.
I'm completely enraged. He kept going even when I was going "wtf dude, wtf" I eventually concluded with a "wtf I'm so mad at you right now". And he reigned it in. I know he likes to exaggerate stuff for comedic effect but this was NOT COOL. Women don't think domestic violence is 'hot'. Especially not the (feminist) women I know. Especially not me.
He said he just saw a trend and wondered why the hell no one in the media was making as big a deal about this as about GTA, in fact it's popular. I told him that regardless it's a completely offensive thing to say and he has no idea what he's talking about. Sure it's in his right to say it and it's in my right to be pissed off about it. He apologized now for hurting my feelings. But still I'm all WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT.
Am I overreacting? I don't think I am. I think it was a disgusting thing to say. But he apologized. And we're going to a museum for a double-date sunday so.. Yeah there's that.