Yes, I get it, we should be nice to each other, we should be kind to each other and we shouldn’t talk down or be angry with each other over trivial things...

But also maybe we should be adults and do our chores without being asked to? And maybe if you’re asked to pick something up at the store you should pay attention and pick that thing up instead of some other thing instead?

And maybe we should just relentlessly mock these silly things as they come up?

I remembered the time that I asked him to watch the kids and I came back to find that he had traded them for remote control cars. When I shrilly demanded to know where the kids were he hid under a blanket and whispered, “Kids are hard.”