There's something I've been considering doing... I'm going to keep it vague purposefully. I'm not sure if it is a bad idea or not but I've been thinking about doing it more and more lately. I won't end up dead or in jail but my husband would be unhappy to know I did this. I'm hoping it will help me with my confidence in a certain area of my life. Ideally he would never find out but I would feel poorly about keeping this from him. It'd probably be a big deal if he found out. So on the one hand I could potentially increase self-esteem which is something I desperately need but on the other it could be damaging for my relationship. I wouldn't be thinking about this if I wasn't desperate. How do you be considerate of your partner's feelings while still doing what is right/best for you?