So everything about my living situation at the moment is awkward. Everything. I've already posted about the broken house and terrible neighborhood.

My husband and I live with another married couple. It's a big house, so space really isn't an issue. What is an issue, is I'm pretty sure that one of my roommates doesn't like me. We'll call her Jessica. I get along with her husband just fine, but I don't know what to do in this situation.

She's told me before that she has an issue getting along with other women, and I'm thinking she specifically means women like me. When it comes to the way I look, I'm as stereotypically girly as you can get. I think she associates women who look like me and present like me with being two-faced/backstabby/whatever. I know I'm tooting my own horn here, but I'm really not "one of those girls."

We've lived together for about 4 months now, and I just can't seem to get close to her. I know she doesn't like my views on certain things (feminism, but that's a whole 'nother story). I don't think she likes my personality at all. For whatever reason, everything I do or say seems to grate on her. Like on Saturday I made a joke about not trusting anyone with a mullet and she has spent the time since then being openly irritated or hostile towards me.

She prides herself on not hiding her feelings and talking to people when she has a problem with them. If that's the case, I have no idea why she hasn't sat down with me and said, " Look, when you do XYZ, I feel ABC. What can we do about that?"

I try to be a really nice roommate, I do the dishes and clean the house and cook a lot since I know everyone works more than I do. I'm not doing it to try an upstage her or anything, I just know that everyone else works more than full-time and I'm trying to help everyone relax/feel comfortable when they come home.

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