So I got a lot of good advice earlier about how to handle being a broke bridesmaid. I emailed the Maid Of Honor that I hardly know and she was totally chill, just like the bride thank God!
I have discovered I might be the only bridesmaid that lives locally to the Mother of the Bride (Bride live almost 2 hours away from her mom, plus the shower is a "secret"). So being the errand girl/helper and contributing less in terms of cash will work itself out.
The MOH was thankfully hoping someone with a house host it or renting a cheap hall. Potluck everyone make appetizers, salads or dessert and have a big deli platter or sandwiches. Of course booze, lots of booze to get through the day. God I hope no games but you know all the older relatives are going to want games and make the ribbon hat during presents.