Let me preface this by saying that I'm not meaning to offend anyone. I have questions and would love some opinions on this. And please no mainpage.
I was watching Secret Sex Lives on TLC last night. There was two world record people and then two stories about fetishes. One of the fetish was a man who was into giantess videos and giantess "dominatrix" but the other was about feedism. The couple was Donna and Phillipe. Phillape was the feeder and Donna was the feedist and while showing their day-to-day lives, the show also had a couple of sex therapists weighing in.
The couple had been together for four years and looked and acted perfectly happy to me (and I don't doubt that they are.) Phillipe repeatedly said that he loved fat women and the more weight Donna gained, the more he loved her. He went on to say that society has a very specific idea on what beauty should be but that's not what works for him.
I agree with him, especially when colorism is brought up (which is often) so I have no problem with that. What really threw me for a loop (and I was hoping people could shed some light on) is that Donna said that she had a goal to be 1000 pounds and Phillipe supported it. "To us, her gain will be a source of enormous sexual pleasure."
The show said that in the most extreme feeder relationships, becoming immobile is the ultimate goal. Philippe said that immobility was "a huge turn-on" and Donna said that the thought of being completely dependent on someone was "totally awesome." One of the sex therapist said that being totally immobile just accentuates the power dynamic.
So.....that's the part I'm trying to wrap my mind around (sexual power dynamics I understand.) I've always been extremely independent and this is way of thinking is foreign. I cannot imagine being completely dependent , in every meaning of the word, on someone BY CHOICE. On GT, I've read and heard stories from some who do have physical and/or health problems and their everyday struggle. My heart goes out to those who don't have a choice in their lives and have to take it one day at a time. That's why it's I'm a bit confused about this.
But at the same time, this couple seems extremely happy and this is what works for them, so I feel I shouldn't be feeling any type of way. One of the sex therapists said that Donna is the physical embodiment of Phillipe's fetish and this is a rarity to find in the fetish world. The movie Secretary came to mind as I was watching this.
Update: Apparently they have broken up and Donna is working on a healthy lifestyle http://www.officialdonnasimpson.com/