I married someone in the military last year and moved away from my friends (mostly single, or dating, but ladies with careers). The new women I've become friends with are all mothers. And as the story goes, we've all added each other on facebook to keep up with spouse get togethers and other happenings. All of these women have degrees, some have masters degrees, but moving every couple of years makes if difficult to hold down a career. So, when the choice comes to work retail or odd jobs or be a stay at home mom, many opt for being a stay at home mom.
I see so many articles in my facebook feed now which basically worship the stay at home mom aka the hardest and most challenging job in their opinion. I sometimes feel it's their defense mechanism for maybe feeling like they don't financially contribute, and there are women out there who would much rather work then spend all day with the kids. However, their constant posting of these articles makes me wonder if they ever take into consideration the women on their friend's lists that are both mothers and career women. It's not like having a job means you quit being a mom. It doesn't mean you don't have to do laundry, go to the store, run errands, ect. It means that you have 40-50 hours/week less to do these things. It means when you aren't at work, you feel like you have to work extra hard to be a mother because you aren't there all day.
We don't have kids yet, but I'm the daughter of a single working mother. She raised me while working and putting herself through college before starting her career. I see these women wanting to bond together and encourage each other over having the hardest job in the world, and I think about my mom. How is being a stay at home mom harder than being a working mother? Why do stay at home moms and even working mothers feel the need to constantly post things defending their decision at the risk of offending someone who chose the other road? Can we quit doing this? I know these women aren't intentionally telling their working mother friends that they have it easier, but by saying staying at home is the hardest job, that is essentially what they are saying. End rant.