Ok, I know everybody loves Chris Meloni. He's handsome, he's a great LGBTQ ally, etc. He posted the following tweet today for the #NoMore hashtag:
"Being male is a matter of birth. Being a man is a matter of age. But being a gentleman is a matter of choice."
Lovely sentiment. But a little problematic, no? While I applaud his support for ending domestic violence, I am a bit troubled by his language. "Being male is a matter of birth." Ok, with you (somewhat hesitantly, by the way) so far. "Being a man is a matter of age." Eh, I actually disagree, but I understand what he means. Boy -> Man ->Elder. Sure, ok. "Being a gentleman is a matter of choice." Whoa, there, dude. Um, no. The idea that not punching your fiancee into unconsciousness doesn't make you a gentleman. Holy shit. That makes you a human being. That makes you not garbage. This whole idea that treating a woman (or anyone, for that matter) with respect makes you a gentleman is horseshit. "Gentleman" feels like an elevated status. Treating women/other human beings with dignity and respect shouldn't "elevate" you. Jesus.