As promised to a few folks, here are some photos from mine and BoyPenguin’s wedding day. I’ve blurred our faces so as to not doxx us, but I may still pull this post or the pics after a while.

In other news, BP and I just returned from San Francisco where we spent last week. He was going to interviews, and I was using the heck out of the public transportation there and going to so many places. I really liked it, but it’s definitely a CITY. Lots of people, lots of things to do, lots of moving pieces. So there’d be an adjustment to city life. But it was also refreshing and cool and there were so many little shops and restaurants that we don’t even come close to having out here.


When we tell people we’re thinking of moving to San Fran, the response is always “It’s so EXPENSIVE there!” Which. We know. But, BP’s a software developer and while he has a decent job here, he’s at the top of the chain in terms of knowledge where he is. The challenges he faces are more office politics and internal rather than technical. Any new technical things he learns are on his own and, even if they benefit the company, are not billed to the company. There are no professional development opportunities, nor is it really encouraged there. They also work on a development platform that has a terrible reputation, is hard to work with, and is dying out in the industry. BP hates it and feels like it’s more limiting for him professionally.

(Recently, they’ve asked him to move onto a new products team and be a technical lead. They came up in salary a bit, but nothing competitive for his field. He asked for more, saying he’d done a lot of work in the preceding few months on a high-profile project. They pushed back and said his hours were X, which weren’t that high. He said “Well, all the time I spent learning new languages to help our servers go faster, to help the site load faster, to make the new fun widget thingy even work right, that time I didn’t bill because the first time I did, my project manager told me not to bill that time because it’s a waste. So there are a lot of unaccounted hours I spent on my own professional development that made that Big Project even go.” Crickets.)


We live in a relatively high cost of living area because we’re close to a rich town and lots of skiing. However, the salaries here aren’t in the competitive range. The majority of people here with money earned it somewhere else or inherited it. And as it is right now, buying a house here would not be possible for another 10 years or so, and that would be at the current prices. They may still continue to go up.

So. He’s gotten some offers from the San Francisco companies. Strictly running the numbers, even with the higher cost of living, we’d be doing better there than here. The health insurance with one company is better, too.


For me, I could find any wide variety of jobs. My background has been technical editing and technical writing, which i haven’t done since moving home to this town because there aren’t jobs for that here. Instead, I ended up doing internet marketing, and now am a full-time seamstress. But there would be so many options for me to find new and different work there, whether it’s a jobby job in an office, or sewing, or growing lettuce for hippos (I really liked the idea of gardening at the zoo; the San Fran zoo has a little garden area that I loved!).

Aside from numbers, though, how does one make this kind of decision to uproot one’s life and relocate to a whole other state, city, community, job market, etc.? I know there are a few of you here who have moved cross-country for jobs, and probably a few of you who live in the Bay Area. Thoughts? Experiences?