I recently finished a marathon viewing of the first 2 seasons of Portlandia. As I am wont to do, I started doing some googling about Fred Armisen and Carrie Brownstein. I was pleasantly surprised to find that they are not only friends, but they are BEST FRIENDS! (Also that she is the bass player from Sleater Kinney and they met years ago through playing music!!) But I digress, from all the interviews and articles I found about them, I've become so heartened to read what a supportive, loving, and happy relationship they have... Without sex and romance.

Margaret Talbot writes for the New Yorker:

Armisen and Brownstein text each other every night before bed. Brownstein says of their friendship, “Sometimes I think it’s the most successful love affair either of us will ever have.” Both claim that it wouldn’t work if they were romantically involved. “It would be colder, because we’ve both treated our romantic relationships in a cold way,” Armisen says. “Carrie and I are more romantic than any other romantic relationship I’ve ever had—that sense of anticipation about seeing the other person, the secret bond. But things don’t become obligatory. I’m not thinking, I’m doing this because you’re my girlfriend; I’m just thinking, I love Carrie.”

Living on opposite coasts, Brownstein and Armisen began flying cross country just to hang out. Given their lack of romance, 'they decided that they’d have to work on something together. As she put it, when you’re not dating somebody, “it begins to seem kind of weird if you’re flying around the country to see him.” And thus was born Portlandia!

I am a married woman. My husband is the best. He is an amazing friend, partner, and supporter... but our relationship also contains romance, and SEX.


I started thinking about my other relationships. And I was excited to realize I have someone like that! I have an amazing male friend who I have always been platonic with, who I would fly across the country just to 'hang out' with. I love him with all my heart. And I know he loves me. In fact, he has been one of the most important relationships I have had in my life. And my husband totally appreciate this and loves him (almost) as much as I do. (And yay, he is coming to stay with us this weekend!)

Do you have a platonic love of your life? Do you have a friend (who you could potentially date because of your sexual orientation) that you would fly across the country to be with, but never kiss?