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Emotional Labor and evening OT!

So it’s been a trying week. I’m feeling the weight of the wedding/moving/money/etc etc and I just attempted to have a conversation with BellaFella about it. I know he understands what I’m saying, but I’m not sure his brain even thinks like that.

In a non-confrontational way, I told him that we’re still trying to figure out the dynamic of living together while doing all this stuff at the same time. But I need him to anticipate what needs to be done. Right now, I’m having to think through everything and delegate tasks. I’m not his task master, nor do I want to be. Yes, I know I am particular about stuff sometimes, I get it. But he doesn’t always need to look to me to get either ‘approval’ or a list of what to do when he brings up an idea. He can just do it. For example, I said something about his suit needed to be cleaned and pressed before the wedding. He knows it needs to be done. But instead of me reminding him and saying ‘you should really get it done this week so it’s out of the way’, he should be able to think about the next 2-3 weeks and say ‘there’s going to be a lot of shit going down, I should do this now instead of the last minute.’ He agreed. But I still don’t think he’s going to find his groove anytime soon.

Le sigh. Tell me about your weekend!

EDIT: Shout out to Natface, who suggested these beautiful earrings for my wedding attire. I thought they actually went perfectly with my dress and have the same kind of look that my wedding ring does. Showed the picture to my best friend and her reaction was ‘Yes! I want them to mate and have earrings babies.’


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