So my mom and older sister (the ones from this post) had a huge fight that started with something unrelated and then spawned into a fight about things my mom has been angry about for YEARS but has never gotten over even though it’s been rehashed several times. So after the actual screaming match (which I wasn’t privy to because I’m on the other side of the country THANK GOD) they’ve decided that they just won’t come in contact with one another for the foreseeable future.
I’m just so incredibly disappointed in my mother. She’s supposed to be setting the example for adult behavior but she’s behaving like a petty teenager. She’s 60-something but she won’t take responsibility for her actions. She wrote a really nasty vague post about my older sister on Facebook, was called out for it, but is “standing by it” because....???? She claims she doesn’t understand why people are upset with her actions and then she does something like that and will not admit any wrongdoing.
She’s angry at my sister’s mother-in-law because my sister admittedly has a better relationship with her but that has nothing to do with the mother-in-law. It’s an insecurity of my mother’s that she’s taking out on someone who has done nothing wrong.
The trouble was they were both coming to me to bitch about each other. I was trying to be a good daughter and sister and listen but it became too much. I got a lot of good advice from you guys about not being responsible for them and setting boundaries. Thank you guys so much for that.
I’ve told both of them that I don’t want to be in the middle of their fight anymore and they cannot complain about each other to me. I love them both and it isn’t fair to me to be put in the middle and have to play both sides. So they’ve both agreed to stop talking about it to me for now. I’ll need to keep firm about it but I think I can do it.