So last fall Mr. Ivriniel and I went to a fertility clinic. When we started at the clinic, Mr. I's sperm count was normal. We had several unsuccessful rounds with fertility drugs, and then an IUI attempt, which was cancelled because Mr. I's sperm count had dropped so low as to be practically non existent back in July.

So we changed some of Mr. I's meds, and he had another test at the beginning of the month. I just came out of a meeting with the Dr. where I was given the results. (Mr I was supposed to be there, but they moved our appointment from 4:35 to 4:00 at noon today, and I couldn't get a hold of him to tell him until 3:45).

His sperm count has grown considerably, from 1 up to 1 million, but that is still really low. The Dr. immediately started pushing me to do ICSI IVF, saying "Yeah, the count is rising, but it will probably crash again."

My response "Wait a minute, shouldn't we be trying to figure out what caused the crash and slow rebound?"

He told me "You can get a referral to a Urologist, but you are wasting your time. You should do IVF now."

I am really sick of this Dr. This is not the first time they have rescheduled appointments the day of, resulting in us having to scramble. I feel pressured into having expensive procedures.

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Yes, I am 40. But my sister got pregnant for the second time at 42. I know it is harder at my age, but my ovarian reserve is good, so it's not like my ovaries are going to dry up and blow away tomorrow.

Personally I am far more interested in finding out what is up with Mr. I's health. His GP referred him to a GI specialist, for liver and kidney function tests because of concerns raised by his bloodwork. When I tried to tell the Fertility Doc, he was completely disinterested. I guess I feel he treats us like gonads rather than full people. Gonads with dollar signs attached.

I need to go in for my annual Physical. I think when I do, I will ask for a referral to a new fertility clinic.