Misquote? Mischaracterization? Bad choice of words?

“Violent, or beautiful? It’s kind of sexy, like emotional abuse can be tender. That’s why it’s messed up.

“If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, it can be tender, that’s why you stay. And you stay because there’s a poorly part of your mind that likes it.”

I think I understand what she’s getting at... maybe? And she certainly isn’t, like, advocating, but... oy.

Anyway, I’m sure the internet will handle this with all the sensitivity and nuance it usually brings to discussions about abuse and why victims stay.