I’ve always had to defend my friend. She’s the ‘cool girl’.

High heeled knives in the back, breeding anger over nothing.*

Reason for the choice of emojis.

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I’m sure everyone can relate to shit talk. Either you had to endure it via the grapevine about you, or you’ve been an unwilling ear to someone else.

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A few months ago, a ‘Friend’ went on a rant-in a crowded restaurant, about the ‘cool girl’ in our group.

‘Friend’: “UGH SHE’S TOO PERFECT! PEOPLE JUST WORSHIP HER FOR NO REASON! I MEAN, SHE’S COMPLETELY NARCISSISTIC AND CRAVES ATTENTION!”

...blah blah blah...

Me: “I...well...she’s really nice...and I think she’s very smart...and-”

‘Friend’: “SHE’S BASICALLY JENNIFER LAWRENCE! SHE’S SO FAKE!”

Me: “I...I like Jennifer Lawrence...she seems nice-”

‘Friend’: “YOU WOULD SAY THAT!”

This conversation happened maybe three or four months ago.

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I’ve always liked being around the ‘cool girl’. Seems a bit odd calling her that, because she’s really just true to herself. I guess that’s what makes her ‘cool’.

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To my former ‘gal pals’ (Due to distance, both physical and my self-initiated detachment from toxic people), I was mostly the friend who was maligned, as I now see it. I self-deprecate a lot, which is an invitation to them to follow suit in a way that’s serious. Recently, one of the girls asked if I was going to another ‘Friends’ birthday.

I was not invited. And I’m ok with that.

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Regarding the ‘cool girl’-the whole thing is about jealously! My former ‘Friends’ are/were just mean-both privately and to this girls face. I guess because they resented her.

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Why? Why does this happen? There are many answers, and none of them are wrong.

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My point is I don’t like it when girls hate on other girls for reasons they can’t articulate-they go off of their feelings. I’m not invalidating feelings-just not standing for warrantless vitriol. Nor does this exclusively apply to women, this middle school behavior.

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Hell, I’m not perfect. I harbor deep and intense hatred to a former bully. Wouldn’t piss on her if she was on fire. Forgetting helps me not talk about it though.

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“I felt so weird being around that group” Said ‘cool girl’ recently. “It was like they didn’t even want me there. It sucks, but I am who I am.”

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Respect-that’s probably why I’d rather be around a cool person than a group of fakes.

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