I’ve always had to defend my friend. She’s the ‘cool girl’.
High heeled knives in the back, breeding anger over nothing.*
Reason for the choice of emojis.
I’m sure everyone can relate to shit talk. Either you had to endure it via the grapevine about you, or you’ve been an unwilling ear to someone else.
A few months ago, a ‘Friend’ went on a rant-in a crowded restaurant, about the ‘cool girl’ in our group.
‘Friend’: “UGH SHE’S TOO PERFECT! PEOPLE JUST WORSHIP HER FOR NO REASON! I MEAN, SHE’S COMPLETELY NARCISSISTIC AND CRAVES ATTENTION!”
...blah blah blah...
Me: “I...well...she’s really nice...and I think she’s very smart...and-”
‘Friend’: “SHE’S BASICALLY JENNIFER LAWRENCE! SHE’S SO FAKE!”
Me: “I...I like Jennifer Lawrence...she seems nice-”
‘Friend’: “YOU WOULD SAY THAT!”
This conversation happened maybe three or four months ago.
I’ve always liked being around the ‘cool girl’. Seems a bit odd calling her that, because she’s really just true to herself. I guess that’s what makes her ‘cool’.
To my former ‘gal pals’ (Due to distance, both physical and my self-initiated detachment from toxic people), I was mostly the friend who was maligned, as I now see it. I self-deprecate a lot, which is an invitation to them to follow suit in a way that’s serious. Recently, one of the girls asked if I was going to another ‘Friends’ birthday.
I was not invited. And I’m ok with that.
Regarding the ‘cool girl’-the whole thing is about jealously! My former ‘Friends’ are/were just mean-both privately and to this girls face. I guess because they resented her.
Why? Why does this happen? There are many answers, and none of them are wrong.
My point is I don’t like it when girls hate on other girls for reasons they can’t articulate-they go off of their feelings. I’m not invalidating feelings-just not standing for warrantless vitriol. Nor does this exclusively apply to women, this middle school behavior.
Hell, I’m not perfect. I harbor deep and intense hatred to a former bully. Wouldn’t piss on her if she was on fire. Forgetting helps me not talk about it though.
“I felt so weird being around that group” Said ‘cool girl’ recently. “It was like they didn’t even want me there. It sucks, but I am who I am.”
Respect-that’s probably why I’d rather be around a cool person than a group of fakes.