I am a pleaser. A person who will put others’ wants and needs above my own. A person who will talk her husband into doing something he doesn’t really want to do, then tell him it’s fine, he doesn’t have to, and then wish I hadn’t.
I can probably blame my mother for this, as I can many other things about myself that I don’t like. But I am an adult now, and should be able to change.
It’s never about important things, just those little things that eventually build up. Today it was about returning my dad’s car to him. I’d rather pick him up from the airport and have most of tomorrow free to do laundry and run errands before dinner with a friend. The husband would have to come because my dad has no cell phone and its hard to find someone at the airport without one. He’d rather I drive out to my dad tomorrow, so that he doesn’t have to ride to the airport. I’d still have to find time to do all my errands and laundry tomorrow too. But he doesn’t want to, so I told him it was fine and gave in, again.
Has anyone here overcome their inability to get a spouse to do something they don’t really want to do, but could do easily?