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Helping far away family members dealing with mental illness

OK, so the past 24 hours have been kind of crazy for me. My sister, who lives waaaaaaaaaaaay up north in MN has been dealing with depression, self esteem and major anxiety issues. She's a sophomore in college and is taking the rest of the year off to focus on her health. I think that's a good thing but I'm not sure what I can do to help her. She's been calling me last night and today and I just don't know what to do for her. She's not sleeping well, not going to class, and just posting selfie after selfie on facebook. I don't know. Is this what we do now when we're losing it?

She has to move off campus (she's in the dorms right now) and has no money. :( I sent her what little I had to help with a damage deposit and first month's rent but I'm afraid she's going to go into a poverty spiral. I don't have much to give her and it would take me a day or two to drive up to where she is and I doubt I would be able to afford to take some time off to do so...she is such a meek and well, kind of broken person right now. I want to help her fix it but I can't.

Her fish are dead, she's anxious and I don't know how I can help. She has a doctor up there but I can't make her go. :( 3/3 of my siblings now are dealing with serious mental illness and I don't know how to do this, you guys. What can I do?


this is mostly a rant, I don't know if there's any actual practical advise left. I told her she has my support for focusing on her health and that I can help her only a tiny bit with money. I told her to please stay in contact with her doctor and please take her medications and keep her doc in the loop if things are feeling worse.

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