AKA Robin Thicke; THIS is how you do a sexy/kinda transgressive video. Sex? Oh my, yes. Kinky? Just a tad. BUT - despite the stuff that might be outside some people's comfort zone (e.g. the mild pony play), nobody in this seems sexualized by anyone but themselves. They're just sexual.
Also the song isn't rapey, so there's that.
(Side note - I am super-jealous of the twirler's tassel abilities)