How do you react to commenters who resort to calling you “honey,” “sweetie,” or other gendered pet names to demean you in a thread? How do we stand up to these instances without tainting the loving monikers our partners call us? What is the best way to deal with this when it comes up?

I’d love to hear some thoughts. This came up for me this week. I will not link or quote because I do not want to call anyone out, but despite coming out strong with a comment that more or less stated, “this is demeaning, inappropriate language,” the responses basically said that I had “earned” a “honey” by disagreeing with the commenter. How do we move past this kind of demeaning language? How do we eliminate it from our space here? I’d like to discuss the best way to handle commenters who use these terms to demean women.