Dating is hard for everyone. Sometimes, my lizard brain gets to me. Especially when I meet someone nice that I really like. My past trauma and baggage come to a festering boil in my head, and I can't help but think of a quote by Molly Grue in the 1982 animated adaption of The Last Unicorn.

Upon seeing The Unicorn, Molly is stunned silent, her eyes gleaming. Molly knows what she sees. Soon, Molly's amazement turns to anger. Furious, she turns to The Unicorn, and spits:

"And where were you twenty years ago? Ten years ago? Where were you when I was new? When I was one of those innocent young maidens you always come to? How dare you! How dare you come to me now, when I am this!"

Molly begins to weep; as do I, every time I view this scene. When I meet a nice man, that I'm truly smitten by, I recall this quote and can't help but sob. Where was this man when I was innocent and young, before trauma had taken hold of me? Where was he when I was new, and unencumbered by a hapless spin of Fortuna's wheel?

As kinja user jessqueenoftheraptors aptly put; the unicorn was with me (and those who feel like me) all along. Except it wasn't a physical equine presence. The unicorn was hope. As jessqueenoftheraptors stated:"Hope is like a unicorn, but real."

Although the tumultuous past cannot be rewritten- for those that had to chose either Scylla or Charybdis, there was no middle ground, we have suffered- we can instead focus on the hope that appears when we're most weary. The titular character of The Last Unicorn has to endure pain, fear, and doubt, before she can save the rest of her race from The Red Bull.

We can be scared.

But we can like hope.