I have a lady friend who I've known for about 6 years. She's a perfectly nice person but that makes it hard to tell her what drives me crazy about her.

She's way too needy. She's clingy as hell. When I hang out with her, it's always a 6-8 hour marathon "hang out". With most of my friends I can go to lunch for a couple of hours and then we go our separate ways. With her, I literally have to carve out half of my day to be with her. And even then, if I tell her I need to go, she asks where I'm going and if she can come along.

When I told her I needed space, she said she could just sit in the space with me and be quiet. I tried breaking up with her a few years ago by telling her that I couldn't be a good friend to her. She came back with, "Well I'll take whatever I can get."

She just doesn't get me and I don't feel like I can be a good friend to her. I'm not being a good friend to her. She has other friends. She has other extrovert friends. I've met them. I just don't understand why she won't let me go.

I've been a huge coward about just telling her that. Since the first break up attempt, I've been doing the slow fade with her but she's still calling me and texting me and asking me to hang out all the time like we're still really close best friends.

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I don't want to be mean. I hate being mean. I don't hate her. I don't even really dislike her that much. But she's like a barnacle that just won't let go.

What do I tell her? I can't tell her she's needy. That would be horrible. Right? I just don't know what to do.