I’m visiting a good friend of mine for the next two weeks, and her husband just left her. He moved out about a week ago, and tonight he told her definitively that he’s not willing to work on their marriage anymore. To top things off, her cat also ran away today.

I have no idea how to help her right now. I’m trying my best to listen, and I’ve told her that as long as I’m here I’ll take care of anything I can for her, but it feels woefully inadequate. I know I can’t make it better, but it still feels like there should be something else I can do.

I’m also really scared because she’s struggled with mental health problems in the past and has been suicidal in the past. I don’t know how to tell the difference between things she says that are regular miserable break up thoughts, and things that might be genuine red flags. I had her call her therapist, but since it’s so late at night she almost certainly won’t hear back until tomorrow.

What, if anything, can/should I do here?