I have a lovely lady friend whose company I enjoy but she just does not understand boundaries. I've told her three times already that I want this weekend alone. I don't want to go out. But SHE WON'T STOP ASKING ME.
My other friends get it and leave me alone when I say, "Hey I just need some alone time". This gal will prod and prod and prod and bother and nag and even if I tell her, "I NEED ALONE TIME", she'll say, "Well spend your alone time with me! I'll just sit and be quiet with you in the same room!" O_o.
She 's bugging the crap out of me to hang out this weekend and I was looking forward to housesitting again and having the weekend just to myself. I talk to people all day, every day. I don't get a break when I go home because then my mom jumps on the Inquisition Train and won't stop talking to me until I tell her I'd like some peace.
I love this gal and she's very sweet and when we hang out it's great, but some times I just want to be alone. She doesn't seem to get it. She thinks there is something wrong if I want a People-Free weekend. There is nothing wrong. I just want 24 hours of relative silence away from the Derposauruses at work and my anxiety-driven mother who can't go twenty minutes without asking me if I'm ok when I'm at home. She talks to me in the shower and when I'm on the goddamn toilet. I get no peace during the week. I should live alone.
Anyway, I don't want to be rude but she just keeps nagging. I told her I want some alone time this weekend and she asks "well can you go out Friday?" NOOOOOOOO.
Basically, I don't want to be mean because she's a really great person. She's just trying to get me to be more social and I love her for that but sometimes I really do not want to go out. I want her to respect my need for space but I don't want to be an asshole about it.