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How do you deal with triggers? (TW weight talk)

I try really hard to pretend I am a very together person and I don't get triggered by anything. I try really hard to ignore past traumas and act like I'm totally okay. And honestly, most of the time, I pull it off pretty much alright because I am a PRO at distracting myself and distancing myself from things. Like I'm the compartmentalization queen, and I can usually hold it together.

(I'd just like to pause for a moment and say I am absolutely not shaming anyone who does get triggered by things, everyone has a different story and everyone's feelings are perfectly valid.)

But I've been struggling with my weight, and with all those fun fantastic feelings that come with it. I've been overweight since middle school, and I always thought I was beautiful anyway and didn't have a problem with it. (Mostly.) Then, a little over a year ago, I lost 20-25 pounds. Suddenly, I was... not exactly skinny, but a lot smaller. I was a size 8, for godsake. For the first time in my life I didn't feel like weight was something I had to work around, I felt like I could wear tight clothes and look sexy. It was amazing.
Shit happened, life happened, I fell off the low-carb wagon and I gained it all back. And then some.
I have been struggling with this for months, hating the way I eat and hating that I can't seem to find the motivation to fix it. (Hating myself, in my weaker moments.)

ANYWAY that's not what this is about, this is just giving background info. Like I said, I can ignore most things that would be triggering to me. I can't do that with this. Everyone on GT is completely and totally amazing; you guys have no idea how often I've wanted to go into a thread where someone has given it the label "TW weight talk" or some such and say thank you for the TW. GT doesn't trigger me, you guys are still a safe place for me because everyone is so damn careful.
But no one else is that careful. People on my FB feed talk about weight, people in comments all over Gawker casually mention it. It's EVERYWHERE. It doesn't matter in what way they bring it up, just reading it triggers me. Just hearing/seeing anyone talking about weight in any way sets me into a pretty vicious downward spiral, and I get really depressed and the self-loathing starts up again.
So, how do you deal with unavoidable triggers? The stuff that people mention casually, and don't realize how damaging it can be? What do you do when you're accidentally triggered and start losing it? I have no idea how to cope with this.

(And I'm sorry this is so inane, I know some people have real problems and real issues and me getting upset about weight is just incredibly stupid.)

Typing this up has made me realize this is kind of serious and probably something I should talk to my therapist about, so I'm going to do that too when I see her next week. But any advice you guys have in the meantime would be freaking amazing.


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