My building manager and I chat all the time, and I’m generally friendly with most people I see in the halls at work or at home. The coffee guy at work gives me free donuts and extra espresso shots when I look extra sleepy. My building manager was disappointed I won’t be joining for any of the building activities this month because I’m so busy with work. At our last place, my neighbor was always telling me stories about the block.
I told my wife these things, and she said, “Do I give off a bitch vibe or something? I see the same people all the time without you, and they never talk to me!” I think it’s because when she interacts with people, she’s all business and people just pick up on it. If she’s talking to someone she knows, she will talk to them until they get sleepy and go home. But otherwise, she keeps to herself. I think I just have a habit of sharing more than I have to in short doses, which builds a kind of familiarity with the people I see.
What about you? How well do you know the people you interact with?