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I Can Totally Relate: Not Sharing Relationships on Social Media

This woman and I are eerily similar:

I find it interesting how norms have changed in just 10 years. I joined facebook way back in 2005 when you needed a university email from an approved college (not all colleges were given access to FB). 10 years ago, it was much more common to leave off your relationships. Now, with the advent of Instagram and Snapchat, it seems that having pictures with EVERYONE is normal.


I don’t use Social Media this way - I mostly use it for information sharing (the vast majority of my posts are articles I find interesting and important) and keeping up with Friends and events. Last month I posted a photo for the first time in a year.

I have also never acknowledged relationships on FB (i.e. I’ve never been “in a relationship” or even “single”, I just leave it out). I admit that it comes from a feature from way back when that when you went from “in a relationship” to “single” facebook recorded it as an event and put a little broken heart next to it! I’m pretty sure that feature is gone now. But I saw how heartbreaking it was for friends to have to make that announcement basically public and how shitty that felt for them.

With my ex, whom I thought I would be with for a very long time, I never posted pictures with him (again, because that’s not what I put on my feed). But with his new girlfriend, it was the whole nine-yards (profile pictures together, making it official via “in a relationship with” within 1 month of them dating). I fully admit that I’m gun shy like the woman in the article because I’m afraid that things might end and the fallout from that. But also - I just don’t want anyone all up in my business and want to keep some things to me. I’d rather experience something than document it with a selfie (and I find it frustrating when you’re enjoying something and someone wants to spend 15 minutes getting a perfect picture to post on instagram)

Anyway, maybe I’m just old-fashioned, but I think that it’s okay to keep things to yourself, especially your most personal relationship.

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